RED FLAGS ( Taking Heed To The Signs Part 1)

 When you’ve been maintaining and just living your life as usual and been by yourselves for a minute (especially a woman) and then you happen to meet somebody while you’re out and about enjoying your day, and get asked out on a date by a man who seems to be appealing; worthy enough to go on a date with and the man you think is the man of your dreams, then of course the human nature part of us gets very excited that we want to share the news with everybody. Most of the times we hit up our friends on the phone and tell them all about this excitement which is something I wouldn’t advise due to past experience because it could save you from embarrassment. Trust me, you may never know how your first date will go because he could be a total nerd or a date from hell that could make you hate him afterwards. And because you had your hopes up very high by thinking he could be the one, instead you would feel humiliated by having to tell those same friends that he just wasn’t right for you. I feel that you should keep the matter private until you really get to know that person and once you’ve been seeing each other for awhile then that’s when you should reveal him, if that’s what you choose. Now every man will appear to be perfect in the beginning when you first start dating him; he’s tall, handsome, he’s dressed to impress, he takes you to a nice lavish restaurant, he’s opening the doors for you, and y’all are having a really good time. But if he’s being something or somebody that he’s really not then the real person will eventually come out because they can only pretend for so long. Don’t be blinded by the way that he looks or the way that he dresses; don’t be naive because he has money and opening the doors for you, and you’re seeing all the lavish food sitting right before you at a nice restaurant. The devil himself dresses up very well and can make himself look good with a pocket full of money!!! You better learn to control your appetite and don’t appear to be impressed by what you see but pay close attention to his conversations, because only through a conversation will the heart of a man be revealed. For the bible says that out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks ( Matthew 12:34) so if he’s wicked and perverse then it will show up in his conversations. I want to talk about red flags in which we refer to as warning signs. And my definition of red flags is: unrestrained behavior or attitude that can be detrimental in a relationship which could cause physical, mental, and spiritual harm. It could be so bad that once you have freed yourself from such a relationship that it can leave behind some very ugly scars. I’m going to list a few signs of red flags, and these are some of the signs that you should pay close attention to: Whenever you find a man talking about the mother of his children to you and calling her every name except for the child of God then that’s a red flag because it shows that he has no respect for women and that he will eventually do the same thing to you. And a decent man who loves himself and his children would never speak against the woman who brought forth his child or children into the world. Also pay close attention to his work attendance; if a man is always laying out of work for no apparent reason or he can’t seem to stay on a job for a long period of time then that’s a flag! That should tell you that he’s unstable and that you won’t be able to depend on him for anything. You’ll be paying all the bills on your own if you allowed such a man to move in with you, and he would definitely become a heavy burden. To be continued……

Vicky Pittard

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