RED FLAGS (Taking Heed To The Signs Part 2)


Even the smallest things you should take notice of. If he’s already calling you bae or baby after y’all have only been dating for a week or two, or if he’s ready to meet your kids and family then that’s definitely a sign. He doesn’t even know you and to me that would indicate that he’s moving way too fast. And for some of you, your children doesn’t need to meet him because they’ve already met five before him. If he’s ever rude and disrespectful towards a waitress concerning his food while you’re at a restaurant with him because they brought him the wrong order or made some kind of mistake and he loses control or makes a big deal about the matter then that’s a major flag, I’ve actually went out on a date with a guy such as this and it completely turned me off. Such a man has anger problems along with other issues and he has a nasty attitude. It’s ugly when a woman’s attitude is nasty but I can’t stand a man that has a nasty snobbish attitude. When he finally meets your children and they do something to offend him then what would his reaction be? That’s why it’s very important not to ignore the flags once you see them because by ignoring them, you could be putting yourselves, your family and children lives in danger. GET TO KNOW THEM! and don’t be too quick in bringing a man around your friends. Watch how he interacts with others, and if he appears to be too stand offish and don’t like to associate or communicate with other people, don’t like to have fun when you’re out with friends at a party, or at a get together, then that’s a red flag. Such a person to me would try to be controlling later on down the line and would try to poison and manipulate your mind into isolating yourselves completely from all of your friends and family members all because he’s a loner. All he wants to do is trap you into his own little world and place you into bondage. Whenever you find a man that’s texting you but never bother calling then that’s a red flag. Awhile back me and a guy exchanged numbers ( Though it never went any further than that ) and I remember him telling me that he really wasn’t a talker and didn’t like talking on the phone, and afterwards he would just send me text messages to my phone and I ended up blocking his number. Ladies that only showed me that he was hiding something although I wasn’t feeling him in the first place, and he couldn’t be trusted. Guys I would tell you this, if you don’t like communicating by phone then you are not for me and God did not send you to me because I feel that if a man is really interested in me then he would want to hear my voice and would be eager to call me and not text unless he’s at work and cannot talk at the moment. We are living in some dark and evil times people, and there’s nothing wrong with being picky nowadays and setting your standards completely high. It will save you from so much trouble, pain, and heartache if you would just take your time and stop rushing into these relationships. I’ve read too many stories about how women left their children in the hands of their boyfriends to babysit them and they end up murdered, molested, and in some cases pregnant. You have sick people out here doing everything and they don’t care, but care enough about your children by not bringing just anybody around them. Don’t mess up their lives all because you’re impatient and want to fulfill the lust of your flesh, and because you feel that you need a man. Just take your time!
Vicky Robinson


RED FLAGS ( Taking Heed To The Signs Part 1)

When you’ve been too busy and never really have time for anything, living by yourself, haven’t heard from your family or friends in awhile, but then you happen to be out and about and meet somebody while you’re enjoying your day, and get asked out on a date by a man who seems to be interesting, worthy enough to go on a date with, a man that you never thought would ask to take you out, then of course being human, we get excited! I don’t know about you but I do, and be wanting to share the news with everybody. Most of the times we hit up our friends on the phone even if we haven’t heard from them in weeks, just to tell them you’re going on a date. Which is something I wouldn’t advise due to past experience because it could save you from embarrassment. Trust me, you may never know how your first date will be because he could be a total nerd or a date from hell that could make you leave him right where he’s at. And because you had your hopes up very high by thinking he could be the one, instead you would feel humiliated by having to tell those same friends that he just wasn’t right for you. I feel that you should keep the matter private until you really get to know that person and once you’ve been seeing each other for awhile and you can see yourself spending the rest of your life with them, that’s when you should reveal him if that’s what you choose. Now every man will appear to be perfect in the beginning when you first start dating him. He’s tall, handsome, intelligent, well spoken of, speaks with authority, takes you to a nice lavish restaurant, he’s opening the doors for you, and y’all are having a great time. But if he’s being something or somebody that he’s really not then the real person will eventually come out because they can only pretend for so long. Don’t be blinded by the way that he looks or the way that he dresses; don’t be naive because he has money and opening the doors for you, and you’re seeing all the lavish food sitting right before you at a nice restaurant. The devil himself dresses up very well and can make himself look good with money, but on the inside is pure evil. You better learn to control your appetite and don’t appear too impressed by what you see, but pay close attention to his conversations, because only through a conversation will the heart of a man be revealed. For the bible says that out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks ( Matthew 12:34) so if he’s wicked and perverse then it will show up in his conversations. I want to talk about red flags in which we refer to as warning signs. And my definition of red flags is unrestrained behavior or attitude that can be detrimental in a relationship which could cause physical, mental, and spiritual harm. It could be so bad that once you have freed yourself from such a relationship that it can leave behind some very ugly scars. I’m going to list a few signs of red flags, and these are some of the signs that you should pay close attention to. Whenever you find a man talking about the mother of his children to you and calling her every name except for the child of God then that’s a red flag because it shows that he has no respect for women and that he will eventually do the same thing to you. And a decent man who loves himself and his children would never speak against the woman who brought forth his child or children into the world. Also pay close attention to his work attendance; if a man is always laying out of work for no apparent reason or he can’t seem to stay on a job for a long period of time then that’s a flag! That should tell you that he don’t wanna work and that you won’t be able to depend on him for anything. You’ll be paying your bills alone if he moves in with you, and would expect you to take care of him because there’s a lot of women that’s doing it.
Vicky Pittard