Every second there’s a break up taking place somewhere around the world, and most of the time every break up is due to some type of infidelity. Once a woman has ended her relationship with a man they’re only apart for a few days and then she’s right back with him only to get the same results. He’s only good for the first two days but afterwards he’s back to his old ways again; lying and cheating as he was doing before. And then some of you keep wondering why he’s repeating the same things over and over again and doing those things to you, but the reason he keeps doing it is because you’re letting him. You’re not making him suffer long enough to come to his senses, and whenever he calls or text your phone begging and fake crying, leaving crazy messages on your voicemail then you fall for the trap and allow him back in every time, and the cycle repeats itself. But if you really want to see a difference instead of getting the same results then make him suffer and make him see what it’s really like being without you. One, two, three, or four days won’t do it either because sometimes you may have to let three to four months pass by or more, just to show a man that you’re not about those games. Don’t answer his calls or respond to his text messages because your silence will only hurt him even more and make him wonder what you’re doing, and he will eventually become so desperate and would do just about anything to get you back but you must allow some time to pass by and don’t give in. You may be saying to yourself that if you let too much time pass, by then, he’ll be with someone else, but my question to you is this, wasn’t he with somebody else when you was with him? And was he calling and texting other women while y’all was together? That was the reason you broke up with him in the first place right? And if it only takes three to six months for a man to get over you and move on to somebody else then he didn’t love you from the beginning. Stop taking him back so fast because that’s the problem, and if you follow my advice then you’ll see a difference in him because he’ll be broken. And whenever a person is broken, they become humble. When you finally allow him to come back after so many weeks have passed then when he starts leaving his cell phone laying around without it being locked, and showing you who’s calling or texting even when you didn’t ask him to do it, then he has changed. If he cancel some plans or an event just to spend some quality time with you then he definitely has changed. If he’s out with his friends and calls you to inform you about his where abouts and ask you to come join him wherever he’s at, then he has changed. Or if he’s hanging out with his friends but call it the night with them just to come home to you at a decent hour, then he has changed. But this is something that he will do continually, and not just for a few days and then turn back into his old ways. A man can be tamed, but it would only take a strong woman to tame him.
Before God created the heavens and earth He already foreknew us, and at the appointed time we were conceived, formed, fashioned, and knitted together in our mother’s womb. Psalm 139:13 it says: For you formed my inward parts; you covered me in my mother’s womb. Verse 15-16 it says: My frame was not hidden from you, when I was made in secret, and skillfully wrought in the lowest parts of the earth. Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed, and your book they all were written. The days fashioned for me, when as yet there was none of them. When the appointed time came for us to be delivered, we was brought forth into the world and we knew absolutely nothing at the time because we were newborn babies that we’re innocent and only existing. But as we slept in the nursery along with other babies of different races and gender, we were not bothered by it because we knew nothing about color, nationality, or gender. I remember when I was about three years old at a daycare center, and I colored a picture of an elephant purple and took it home and showed it to my mother. Some of her friends who had came over laughed at the picture because they thought it was funny of me to color an elephant purple. But my mother took pride in the picture because those were the thoughts and the imagination of her baby girl, and she didn’t care what others thought about it. There are many of you who are parents and took pride in your children’s accomplishment whether it was writing, drawing, sports, making good grades or just always doing the right things. You have hung their achievements on the refrigerator, shelves, posted them on Facebook and even told family and friends about what they have done because you were very happy and proud of them. So why can’t some of us be happy and rejoice in the work of God’s hand and the things which He has created which is us? because He takes pride in us when we’re doing good, but we don’t take pride in one another because there are so many in the world who hates people of a different race. Hating them for something they had no control over. Did God give any of us the privilege to tell him that we wanted to be Black or White? Were we able to choose our parents, siblings, or tell him whether we wanted to be a man or woman? Could we have chosen our birth or death dates? Absolutely not!!! And no particular people, group, or race will ever be completely removed from the face of the earth. In the book of Exodus chapter 1 verses 15-22, Pharaoh gave a command that if the Hebrew women gave birth to a son, then the son should be killed in order to keep them from multiplying and that the girls were to be spared. But the Egyptian midwives feared God and spared the boys anyway and they continued to multiply. In these last days as it has been throughout many generations we will continue to multiply whether you’re Black, White, Hispanic, Indian, or etc, so the violence, police brutality, and the killings due to the color of a person’s skin only reveals your true ignorance and the lack of love for human life. What if we endured all the hardships that this life has to offer us and then come to the end of our lives and go to heaven only to see a sign outside the heaven gates which says: NO COLORED PEOPLE ALLOWED!!!! No Blacks, No Whites, No Hispanics, No Indians, No color period. Then we all would be doomed and spending eternity in hell together, and hell would not separate us due to skin color. But praise God that He’s nothing like us but loves each of us unconditionally. We are the work of His hands and he rejoices in His creation. I love each and every one of you no matter what color, nationality, language, or gender that you are because if everybody had that mind frame then this would be a better world to live in.
When his birthday weekend had approached, he called me early Saturday morning telling me that he had to work, but deep down in my spirit I felt that something just wasn’t right. And as soon as the sun had gone down that evening, my niece and I made a surprise visit to his house and once we got there, I saw that a party was going on at his house but once he saw me getting out of my car, he slammed the door in my face before I could reach his door because he had another woman in the house with him celebrating his birthday along with his friends. Then everything started coming to my mind, and I begin putting all of the pieces together that he only wanted my hard earned money to use it to celebrate his birthday with another woman and I became very upset, and a woman scorned. But before I left, I keyed his car and did three thousand dollars worth of damages to it. Was it right? Absolutely not but it felt good while I was doing it at the moment. And what did I gain from it? A restraining order to stay away from him although it eventually got thrown out of court. But after that incident I sunk into a deep depression and was sleeping a lot, I was forcing myself to eat because I couldn’t eat, I didn’t want to be bothered with anybody, I was angry, bitter, and I was taking it out on everybody. I cried many days and nights and I constantly prayed, but after a year and some months later i became stronger than ever. Although he moved on, I remained single because I just can’t do what everybody else does. I don’t know about him but I have a calling on my life and that calling requires a daily submission and making some sacrifices including refraining from sex. Therefore I couldn’t move on into another relationship because jumping into another relationship when you haven’t completely healed is a disaster waiting to happen, because you’re only using someone to get over somebody else and you will still be unhappy. And going to the club partying with your girlfriends isn’t going to help either, but you will only find yourself drinking more than usual because your mind will constantly be on him. Find positive things to do that will keep you busy, something that you really enjoy even if it’s just bonding with your children and that will ease your mind a little. Time heals all wounds and it can heal a broken heart but it’s up to you to allow that time to do what it needs to do. If you allow it then time will comfort you and bring you some peace, and once peace enter in, you will look at life in a totally different way and thank God for it. I am still enjoying that peace a year later, and sometimes I cry because I thank God for bringing me through it and making me realize that all I really needed was him. The man that hurt me is the same man who tries to reach out to me but his number has been blocked because I AM HEALED!!!!
A broken heart is something that all of us can relate to whether young or old because we’ve all experienced getting hurt, betrayed, used, or even abused at some point or another in our lifetime. Many of us handle our pain differently although most of the time the way that we deal with our pain does us more harm than good when we should just allow ourselves to heal in a natural way. And the key to healing in a natural way is call time. If you’ve just broken up with your significant other or either a man left you for somebody else or whatever the situation may be, then we as women take a break up very hard depending on how much we really loved that man. But I’m going to list some things that you should not do when you’re hurting and going through the process of healing. Do not listen to sad music that will remind you of the situation or that individual because all you will do is cry and wallow in your misery. If you want to listen to music then listen to the music that will build you up and strengthen you, and don’t go to the same places where y’all have spent quality time together or maybe hung out at because you’re trying to heal and move on. But not moving on into another relationship, but to strive at moving on into being at better place with yourself. A man could break up with you today and be with another woman tomorrow and be out and about having a good time, but we as women would have pity parties by sitting at home calling one friend after another reciting the same story about what had happened that led to the break up. But it’s really not good for your friends to know what’s going on because they think that they have your best interest at heart and would start calling to inform you about his where about and telling you every move that he makes, and telling you who he’s with, and that will only hurt you even more. But you need to go through a period of cleansing; getting all of that toxin out of you that you have accumulated through that relationship and just cry, getting everything out because as the time progress you will get tired of crying and eventually you’ll stop. It took me a year and some months to get over the last man that I was involved with about a year ago, and my progress of healing was hard for me because I took the break up very hard, but I also knew what God was doing which was removing him completely out of my life. One particular evening he came to my house and asked if he could borrow one hundred dollars from me and deep down inside I really didn’t want to lend the money to him, but because I loved him, I let him borrow the money which turned out to being the worst mistake I made.
I don’t think many would find this site to be appealing and especially the guys because they’re probably thinking that this is a women’s empowerment site, and thinking that I’m only advising all single women to close their legs which is a good idea and to take a stand against the men of our generation. Not exactly that though! I write based on what I see and would love to see both men and women do better. But we all could learn something from somebody right? Or learn from one another? I can learn something from a man the same way that a man could learn something from me, so today I will be encouraging all men. You’ve probably heard many women say that a good man is hard to find but I’m very sure that men feel the same way about a woman as well because now days you find many women who are loose, sluts I usually call them who are looking for cake daddies. Looking for ways to come up, getting money instead of working for it, but they would rather lay on their backs and different men taking turns going in and out of their beds. These women don’t care who they manipulate to getting whatever they want. Some of you men already have good women at home but you would jeopardize your relationship by cheating with such trash, who doesn’t carry themselves worthy of respect but has a bad reputation, walking around carrying every sexually transmitted diseases there are, and then you’re taking these diseases back home to your wife. And the biggest mistake that men make is getting too comfortable with them and talking too much by telling them everything. You’re telling them where you live at, telling them where your wife works at, telling them her first and last name, giving them information they don’t need to know and that’s none of their business. Not thinking that they only want to know these things because they’re plotting and setting you up for the day you make them angry, because in reality they’re undercover home wreckers and trouble makers who are only looking for ways to destroying you because no other woman should ever know anything about your house or family. But instead of some of you thinking with your minds, you’re too busy looking at their bodies. Now do you really think you’re the only one who’s kissing on her thighs, rubbing on her breast, kissing all over her neck, laying in her bed, and the only one she’s making love to? One man leaves then another one comes and you’ll find yourself spending more money than usual because most women like that have habits and addictions, they’re popping and snorting pills, smoking blunts like they’re smoking cigarettes, and they drink alcohol like they’re one of your homeboys. But you spend less time with the wife who truly loves you and doesn’t ask you for much only just to entertain trash, and somebody who ain’t even worth a conversation. But just remember this one thing, that a good woman only comes once in a lifetime but afterwards you will never find another like her. Take pride in the woman that God has given to you and don’t ruin your life dealing with somebody who’s not even worth you losing your family over.