Marriage is a beautiful thing because it symbolizes the covenant relationship that God has with his people. In the New testament Paul encourages husband’s to love their wives just as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for her, that he might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that he might present her to himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. (Ephesians 5:25-27) The key word that stands out in this verse is: HOLY; now we know that God created Adam and Eve and then afterwards blessed them by telling them to be fruitful and multiply (Genesis 1:28) which also tells me that God created sex as a gift to be enjoyed between husband and wife in their union but because of the wickedness and moral corruption in today’s world, many couples are now inviting others to join them in their marriage bed which defiles it. Not only that but certain sexual acts that are being done between husband and wives are defiling it as well and I will tell you how. Yes the word of God says that marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers will be judged. (Hebrew 13:4) But many people think that just because they’re married, that they can have any type of sex that they want to including oral and anal sex and think that it’s honorable and pure in the sight of God but it’s not. You can disagree all you want to but I only write what God places in my heart and therefore I will be teaching you today. In the book of Deuteronomy 20:17-18 it reads: But you shall utterly destroy them: the Hittite and the Amorite and the Canaanite and the Perizzite and the Hevite and the Jebusite, just as the Lord your God has commanded you, lest they teach you to do according to all the abominations which they have done for their gods, and you sin against the Lord your God. These nation’s were practicing sodomy and prostitution (including male prostitution) in their religious rituals; therefore orgies, fornication, homosexuality, oral and anal sex were being performed during these rituals as they were worshipping and honoring their gods baal and asherah. A practice that the children of Israel eventually gave into ( Ezekiel 16:15-26, Ezekiel 16:44-52) but it was the main reason why God warned them to remove these nations completely from the land. So by performing oral and anal sex in your marriage bed, you’re not honoring God as you think you are but instead you’re honoring and worshipping the gods baal and asherah which are demons, and you’re also condoning the heathen practices of these nations; The Canaanites, Hittites, Hevites, Jebusites, Amorites, and the Perizzites, which God is not pleased because the penis was created to penetrate the vagina, not the mouth or the rectum and vice versa. And you may be saying that you’re going to do whatever it takes to please your husband or your wife but even by doing those things some of your husbands are still texting other women, coming home late, cheating on you, flirting on the job, and telling lies about his whereabouts, and so are some of the wives. It’s a demonic and occult practice which would make you no different from a devil worshipper, so start keeping the marriage bed pure and begin honoring God even in your sex life.
When I had taken a three month break from writing, I didn’t go into details as to what was really going on with me and why I remained silent for that period of time until I received a prophetic word from the Lord about two weeks ago that I needed to share my testimony about the warfare that I was dealing with in my mind. That was a very stressful time for me and I was feeling like I just wanted God to end it all, and to call me home to heaven to be with him but that wasn’t his plan for me right now because he wanted me to trust him and to learn how to fight spiritually in order to live a victorious life. Everything that I’m about to tell you will sound so unreal, but if anybody think that demons aren’t real and that HELL isn’t real is sadly mistaken because they are, and they have manifested themselves to me on numerous occasions. When I had finally given up sex along with many other things that I was doing and rededicated my life back to Christ two years ago, that’s when the demonic attacks began. Demons started bringing up things about what I had done in my past but there was only one particular thought that they harassed me with continually, a thought that I will not reveal. And because I paid attention to them, I became disgusted with myself by believing their lies instead of standing firm on God’s word and believing what the word of God said about me which says: Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new. ( 2 Corinthians 5:17) By continuously listening to them, I had unaware given the demons a foothold and they begin building strongholds in my mind. A spiritual stronghold is an incorrect thinking pattern that molds itself into our way of thinking and have the capability to affect a person feelings, how they respond to various situations in life, and they play a large role in our spiritual freedom. The demons purpose was to keep me trapped in bondage, making me a prisoner in my own mind to where I started feeling like there was no way out. They were trying to convince me that I was the person that they painted me to be in my mind and because i had given them a foothold, they unleashed their evil and tormented me day and night because I had many sleepless nights and they even came into my dreams to attack me while I was asleep by touching me in a sexual way knowing that I was vulnerable by being in an unconscious state. They wanted my flesh to get aroused because their aim was for me to relapse back into sin because they knew that I once had a problem with masturbation in the past, back in 2005 when I opened that door through phone sex, but not once did I relapse or give in to that sin. I could feel those strongholds in my mind even while being awake and they were very painful and it felt like a serpent was crawling and moving around in my head and that is no lie; PEOPLE DEMONS ARE REAL!!!!!! I recited every prayer that I Googled that you could think of but it seemed like nothing was working, and I was so unhappy that i wanted to die. I couldn’t understand why I was going through those things and why I was only being attacked with that one particular thought when I had done many other things throughout my lifetime. For a minute I thought that somebody had cast a spell on me by using witchcraft until I remembered that those spirits were familiar spirits because I had this same problem back in the early 2000’s. Back then a prophetess came to me and told me that God said that I needed to pull down those strongholds but because I was very young and immature in christ, I didn’t understand what she was talking about. But today being mature and fully aware now, I know exactly what she meant. In 2 Corinthians 10:3-6 it reads: For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh. For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ, and punishing every disobedience when your obedience is fulfilled. Everything that Satan and his demons tried to make me believe in my mind, I started fighting back with the word of God and quoting scriptures about what thou says the Lord, and always starting it off by saying: It Is Written!!! I am very careful now about what I think about, watch on television, read, and entertain so that I won’t open any more doors for the devil. And I tune in every morning faithfully to listen to sermons on Facebook live, and have became stengthened even more through the Man and woman of God and my faith also has became stronger. The more that I fought back spiritually, the more that I felt those stongholds becoming weaker and weaker by the day. They still try to harass me every now and then but it’s nothing like it use to be because I put on the whole armor of God everyday, I know who I am in Christ Jesus and know who I belong to and know that I am more than a conquer through Him who loves me; therefore if the Son makes you free, you shall be free indeed……( John 8:36)
Whenever we decide to take a trip or vacation, we pack our bags and luggage’s filling them with clothes and different items that we will need while being away. And depending on how much we’re taking with us, the luggage can become so full and heavy that we would need carts to help us bear the burden because by trying to carry them ourselves, it could somehow effect us in some way. Even with the human bodies as we already know that weighing a certain amount and being overweight can cause serious health problems, and also carrying around spiritual weights and baggages are just as bad because it can bring a person’s whole life down to ruins, that it’s the very reason why some relationships and marriages have failed because people have brought in luggage’s from other bad relationships or from their past that were filled with unforgiveness, anger, insecurities, rejection, sexual, physical, mental, verbal abuse, betrayal, and etc. But instead of some of us turning to God so that he can deal with our issues and to give us his yoke to bear, we instead choose to harbor those things inside and sometimes for years which eventually weighs us down causing us much misery and distress because the weight of those things are too heavy. Then you go into relationships bound and expecting your mate or your spouse to bring you comfort and relief when they may not know what’s going on with you because you never talked about your past experiences or opened up to them. And even if you have opened up to them you’re still angry because you have allowed those weights to take root within you. You’re blaming them for everything that others have done and accusing them of everybody; if they leave out the house to go somewhere you think they’re cheating when they’re probably not; you’re accusing them of this person and that person and if you see a beautiful woman or a nice looking man then you become offended all because of your insecurities. God could never send you a good man or woman because your weights would surpress them and push them away and that’s the reason why some of you are single today. In the book of Hebrews it reads: Therefore we also, since we are surrounded by so great cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which so easily ensnares us.(Hebrews 12:1-2) Whether some of you realize this or not but sin itself is nothing but heavy weight, a deadly one at that!!! It will strain and crush the very life out of you and when I was living in it I was extremely heavy due to its weight and my life was a living hell because God made it that way until I returned back to him. Every sin that I was living in brought about a different weight that I became so sick of myself and told God that I missed the relationship that him and I once had and that I wanted it back. And because God knows the heart, he knew that I was sincere and restored our relationship and I never looked back again. I am no longer bound, nor do I feel heaviness in my spirit because I have taken his yoke upon me and follow him sincerely; I have been freed from my past, freed from sins, and freed from weights.
It’s been three whole months since I’ve written an article but during that time of being on break I’ve been meditating, living my life as usual by working, resting, seeking, and waiting for the Lord to give me new insight, new revelation, and to take me into a new direction with my writing because lately I’ve been observing some things that needed to be addressed. Things that are making me feel uncomfortable and it angers me to see the downward spiral and the condition of my people. Now I may get a lot of backlash for all that I’m about to say but if I offend anybody then hopefully you’ll get mad enough to change, and what I’m about to say doesn’t apply to every black person because I myself am a black woman who have accomplished a lot compared to how I use to be. And there are many others, my black brothers and sisters who are successful and doing very well for themselves; entrepreneurs, professors, athletes, along with those who are giving back to the community who’ve reached the height of their success and are making a difference in the times that we’re living in. Anyone who puts forth the effort will see that hard work eventually pays off and that should be the mindset of many but sadly it’s not. Women (Not all) who are living in public housing have nothing better to do with their lives but are idle and attracting men who are just like them with no jobs, no skills, and nothing to offer. There’s nothing wrong with living in public housing as long as you’re working or going back to school to get a degree to better yourselves and to provide a better living environment for you and your children but instead, too many women are so desperate for love that they’re allowing their boyfriends and his friends to hang out at her house or they’re standing around in the breezeways firing up blunts, using all kind of profanity not caring if an elderly person or children are standing nearby. They’re standing all around the apartment complexes making the entire neighborhood look so bad and then wonder why the police’s are always in the area keeping a close eye on them. Instead of some of you wanting to work and make a living the right way, you’ll rather sell drugs in the community or wait until it gets dark to break into somebody’s house to rob and kill them for all that they’ve worked for and your poor excuse for your actions is this: My children gotta eat. Well if your children gotta eat then go to work! They can’t eat if you’re locked up, they can’t eat if you’re shot up and laying in a hospital bed all because you were foolish and broke into the wrong house, and they can’t eat if you’re dead. Your conversations are futile and your head is so empty that you have no wisdom to offer the younger generation who are growing up watching you. Some of you are a poor excuse for being a black man with your pants sagging all the way down to your ankles, you’re spitting everywhere, quick to throw up your middle finger, exposing your true ignorance and then get offended when people of other races don’t want you walking around in their neighborhoods and I don’t blame them because I don’t want you walking around in mines. And if you’re applying for jobs but not getting hired then it’s probably because you’re going on interviews talking and dressing like you’re on the streets, and I’m not putting down my race but some of you need to do better than what you’re doing. Black lives won’t matter until you first start making your own life matter by loving and respecting yourself, and then you’ll learn how to love and respect the next black man instead of killing one another.
I can remember a few years ago when I use to go and check my mailbox and would notice a letter that had come from a certain church. I use to get those letters a lot from this church although I never knew how they had access to my address. When I read the letters it had prophecies written in it concerning my life and everything sounded good until I had gotten to the end of the letter and it said something about if I wanted to receive more prophecies to know the will of God for my life, or if I wanted prayer or etc. then sow a seed. And that’s when I politely ripped the letter into pieces because there are many churches all around the world who are asking people to sow a seed in order to receive God’s blessings or telling you that it’s the key to prosperity. But let me tell you something, God doesn’t need your money in order to bless you because God will bless you if you’re obedient to him and not only that but God is more concerned about your souls, your spiritual growth, and the souls of those that are lost. The word of God says that God made the world and everything that is in it (Acts 17:24) which means that God also created money so why would he need any of yours when it already belongs to him? When Jesus was on earth did he ever charge anybody for prayer, for healing the sick, opening the eyes of the blind, the mute, the deaf, or did he ever charge anyone for casting out demons in their sons and daughters? Too many people are overtaken by greed and want to live comfortable at other people’s expenses, and the love of money is going to send many to hell. Why should I sow a seed to a church when the pastor of that church already has millions of dollars? NO YOU SOW A SEED!!!!!! and reach out to others who are in need. If you want me to sow a seed then link me to places such as the children’s hospital, the homeless shelters, or even the prisons because there are many children suffering from cancer and their parents are struggling to cover their medical expenses. There are homeless people who are in need of shelter, food, and blankets to keep warm; There are prisoners who need proper study bibles to help them to understand the word of God so they can live it and become changed men and women because I don’t want them coming back out into the community being the same person that they were when they went in. So yes I would take my hard earned money and sow a seed to places such as these! Or if God has given you a task to do to advance his kingdom, then sow seeds into what he has given you to do without looking for anything in return. This is my calling what I’m doing, and whatever God places in my spirit then I write it, publish it, and I sponsor it with my own money without asking anybody for anything because he gave me this task to do and has equipped me with everything that I will need and it’s my responsibility to get the message out there, but whether you read it or not is up to you. And even if he doesn’t bless me in this life then I know I’ll have many rewards awaiting me in heaven because I used the talents that he has given me and i presented to him the harvest. (Matthew 25:14-30) But this I do know that the Lord will open many doors for you if you’re fulfilling your calling and love what you’re doing for him with a pure heart. You won’t have to chase money because God will have money chasing after you! I’m gonna repeat that again; if you’re fulfilling your calling and love what you’re doing for the Lord with a pure heart and with the right motive, then you won’t have to chase money because God will have money chasing after you!!!!
If you’re an everyday bible reader such as myself then you will find it in the scriptures where God through his apostles speaks about submission (Ephesians 5:21-22, 1 Peter 2:13, 1 Peter 3:1, James 4:7) And God is teaching me the importance about submission and how it will play a major role in a marriage whenever I do get married. In recent articles that I’ve written I talked about how I’d spent most of my life as a rebel and did whatever I wanted to do without any restraints. But during those years of rebellion I prayed to God on numerous occasions about marriage because I wanted to get married so badly only to my disappointment he never answered. Now that I’ve matured in my walk with the Lord and look back over my life, I can understand why. Submission first begins with God, and if a single woman cannot humble herself and refuses to yield herself to the Almighty God then there’s no way that she could submit to her husband in a marriage with a rebellious spirit because the marriage will eventually crumble. In the book of Genesis 1:26 it says: Then God said, let us make man in our image, according to our likeness; let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over the cattle, over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth. God gave Adam the authority to rule over the earth and also put the animals under his dominion, and Adam was so intelligent that he named every animal that walks upon the face of the earth. He was equipped and had what it took to be a leader and to maintain the earth with the wisdom that God had placed in him, and once Eve was created, it was her duty to submit to that authority and leadership that God had given to Adam. When I had finally given up and submitted myself to God, I gave him full control over my life because I trust him and trust that he knows what he’s doing because he knows me and can see farther than what I can see. And the man whom God sends to me will also know what I need and will be filled with wisdom and have spiritual insight and will know how to lead and guide me into further knowledge about Christ or to anything else that pertains to this life. But the problem with most of us women is that we have attitudes! Nasty, sassy, diva type of attitudes because we’re set in our ways, stubborn, don’t wanna listen to anything or anybody and we always got to have the final word about everything and then wonder why we always end up in all types of mess and situations and wonder why don’t nobody want us or want to be bothered with us. If Eve had fully submitted herself to Adam then sin and death would’ve never entered into the world, and if Adam had exercise the authority that God had given to him to lead and guide his wife and to protect her, then sin and death would’ve never entered in because God gave Adam the commandment concerning the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, and it was his responsibility as a man and as a husband to make sure that his wife obeyed that commandment as well. Being submissive doesn’t mean that a man can do whatever he wants to do to us ladies, neither does it mean that we as women don’t have a voice or our own minds! And it doesn’t mean that a man will be right about everything either because he won’t. But we can bring our ideas and opinions together and work together in coming to a mutual agreement about any situation.
I don’t know about some you but I know that I’m guilty of talking about others and speaking about some things that a person has done or use to do in their past, or either pointing out their flaws. But in reality, if God revealed to everyone all of the thoughts that I’ve had or showed everyone everything that I’ve ever done then I would run away and hide for the rest of my life and would never show my face again because I would be too ashamed. And if everyone took the time out to really search deep within themselves, then they too would realize that none of us really have the room to put down others when we’re all guilty of something and have secrets and things that are hidden that nobody knows about but God that we’re taking back to the grave with us; things that we never want to think about or ever discuss with anybody. Back in Jesus day, there were people who appeared to be very religious and righteous who were experts and teachers of the law of Moses called Pharisees. And in the first four books of the gospel, Jesus contended with these religious leaders due to their hypocrisy. They were self righteous and always pointing out the sin in others and preaching about what not to do while they themselves were breaking every commandment that they taught others. But in 2016, there are many who walk around with religious and pharisee spirits. But here’s the catch, I’m not just talking about the church goers but the non church goers also because you have those who love quoting and posting scriptures on social media; having a form of godliness but denying the power (2 Timothy 3:5) and days later they’re posting something that came from hell itself. And then there are those who chooses to wear dresses 365 days a year thinking that makes them holy or going to churches that requires you not to wear any make-up or earrings which to me is a form of bondage, because it’s a man made rule which profits nothing. There are others who chooses to abstain from certain foods thinking that it makes them holy but if you still have an unregenerate heart then none of those things mean anything. In the book of Matthew 9:10-11 it says: Now it happened, as Jesus sat at the table in the house, that behold, many tax collectors and sinners came and sat down with him and his disciples. And the Pharisees saw it, they said to his disciples, why does your teacher eat with tax collectors and sinners? Believe it or not but there’s a lot of men and women who have well paid jobs and running successful businesses who would think they’re too good to hang out with people working at Popeye’s, and they could be driving a brand new 2016, 2017, Mercedes Benz and think they’re better than a person driving a 2005 Toyota Camry. Some people are so stuck up that they think it’s beneath them to hold a conversation with a person who’s living in the projects. In Matthew 23:6-7 Jesus goes on to say about the Pharisees: They love the best places at feasts, the best seats in the synagogues, greetings in the marketplaces, and to be called by men, Rabbi, Rabbi. How high and lofty people can be sometimes, the modern day 2016 Pharisees!!! We as people can get too high and above ourselves thinking we’re somebody great just because we may be related to certain individuals or because we may dress nice or work at a certain job or because we’re very popular and have many friends that we think that people should cater to us and go out of their way just to speak to us. Some of you think that just because of what you know or who you may know or because you have a degree or degrees behind your name that you’re better than everybody else but let me break something down to you because I’m guilty as well and God put this in my spirit. God created us from the lowest of the lowest which is the ground, and all of us was made from dust ( Genesis 2:7) And all of us will return back to dust after death (Genesis 3:19) We are not more or any better than the vegetables that we eat because they too came from the same place that we came from which is the ground, and because of that revelation I don’t get myself caught up in people including myself. It’s time for us to humble ourselves and break the chains of having a religious spirit; you think it’s a blessing to be rich but a curse to be poor. You think it’s a blessing to live a very long life but a curse to die young although Jesus existed before the heavens and earth was created, but yet when he was born into the world as a human being, his earthly life and ministry was only limited to thirty three years. Pure and undefiled religion before God and the father is this: to visit orphans and widows in their trouble and to keep oneself unspotted from the world. (James 1:27)